Mindset Guidance - Summary of Mindset Techniques and the Power of the Mind.....

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Did you know that your mind and your thoughts are incredibly powerful?
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Now I’m no scientist so I may not be explaining this in the way academics would, but think about it – everything in the universe is made up of energy, including us – essentially millions of atoms vibrating at different frequencies. With every thought and intention that we feel, there is an energetic knock on effect. I will get into this deeper in a moment, but first -

The average person has roughly 70,000 thoughts a day, and 90% of them are repetitive programmed thoughts. The more we think or hear something, the more we believe it, and when we believe it and feel it, it then becomes our truth. So out of those 70,000 thoughts that you have per day – how many of them do you think are negative? How many of them are judging yourself or others? How many of them are you even really conscious of?

When you think, feel and act from a loving place or from a place of pain – that energy vibration is felt by others around you whether they realise it or not. I’m sure you would’ve experienced situations in your life where you have walked into a room and someone is in a dark place and you feel that sudden heaviness hit you, or on the flip side, times where you have been feeling really crappy and someone walks in glowing sunshine and all of a sudden you feel that shift. Right?

We have the power to affect others without even saying anything! So, if that’s possible, which it clearly is and most people tend to agree – then it’s not much of a stretch to suggest that your thoughts are also sending an energetic response to your physical body including all of your bodies systems such as your muscular, endocrine, cardiovascular, respiratory, digestive and nervous system.

Science has proven that the quality of your mental health affects your physical body. If your thoughts, feelings and perceptions are not aligned with a loving vibration, then you are giving them the power to make you physically ill. Stress is one of the reactions to your thoughts and perceptions and it is one of the main causes for disease in the body.

This isn’t new information – but let’s look at the flip side. It also means that our mindset can heal us. If this is a radical notion to you, think of the placebo effect. It has been proven that if someone truly BELIEVES they are going to be healed, then the body has the ability to respond and give them that reality. How incredible is that? YOU have the power to heal yourself!

So, when you tell yourself that you can’t do something because of this or that, or that something is never going to happen or isn’t possible, or that you hate something about your body, or you judge someone else for whatever reason, the list goes on – what do you think that is doing energetically?

You are literally imprinting that truth into your structural make up of who you are. You are programming that into your automatic thought process. If you believe you CAN’T do something, then more often than not, you won’t be able too. If you believe something negative about someone else, how could they ever change in your eyes? If you hate an injury or illness you may have, do you think that energy you are sending it is going to speed up the healing process or slow it down?

Limiting beliefs turns off the miracle making machine that is available to you!

By the law of attraction and the law of intention, you attract the same energy into your life that you are vibrating on. If you give love, you receive love. If you give hate, you receive hate. Pretty simple.

If someone is coming at you with hate and you respond with hate – what happens? It intensifies for both parties. If you respond with love, what do you think happens? It defuses their hateful energy. To get out of darkness, we need to turn on the light.

Side note - This doesn’t mean that you are to condone hurtful behaviour and let yourself become a doormat – but with self-healing and a life time of practice – you can get to a place where you can express how you feel and what you will and won’t accept in your life, without reacting with more pain, blame, and judgement. You will be able to see their innocence; and see that they are operating from a place of pain so you will be able to handle those situations with love. Those that attack are the people that need love more than anything and you have the power to create a shift, especially when it is directed at you.

If it is you however that is the one expressing an emotion that is causing you to lash out, with practice – like training and strengthening a muscle - you will be able to identify what is triggered within you and stop the reaction before it gets out of hand. Bringing attention to the emotion within your physical body instead of losing yourself within your monkey mind, will take away its power. Awareness and taking ownership of the trigger will lead to self-healing.

Triggers are divine signs to show us what we need to heal within ourselves, and every relationship and situation in our lives are divine spiritual assignments to learn from and grow as a soul – especially the difficult ones! When we don’t learn from these situations, then they keep revisiting us until we do, if we ever do…

We have the freedom of choice. We can choose fear, or we can choose love. Fear is familiar and more often than not, it’s a choice we make automatically and unconsciously. But once you open up your awareness, you are able to see more clearly that you have an alternative choice. If you’re not ready to face what is within you, that’s ok, but when you are, the magic really happens. Not surprisingly, the more healed you are within, the less we are triggered, and the better our relationships and our lives get overall, which is super awesome!

Coming back to the different vibrations linked to emotions, thoughts and actions - this energy exchange also means that you can create your own reality – once you realise how powerful you are, you can begin to manifest the life you dream of. But first you have to believe that anything is possible, and you have to let go of those limiting beliefs you’ve put on yourself and your life.

Manifesting needs a whole session on its own to go in depth, but in short, what you believe is true, what you feel deep down that you already have, what you are grateful for, what you give and what you ARE – you attract. However, it’s not simply a matter of thinking “I want a Mustang by tomorrow”, as we do not get to control the time line and the exact details of the outcome.

It’s more along the lines of knowing deep down and feeling within your body that you already have what you desire and saying to the universe “Thank you for the abundance of wealth, health and love that is in my life” for example. And then the universe begins to flow the energetic response of that feeling to bring it into your physical reality.

There may be a lot of inner resistance to a mantra like this to begin with, especially if it is far from your actual truth at the moment, but as mentioned earlier, the more we think something, the more we visualise it, set intentions and feel it in the body, then it becomes your truth.

YOU can decide what that 10% of new thoughts a day are going to be, which means YOU can rewire and reprogram the neural pathways in your brain to make these affirmations and positive loving messages to become that automatic 90% of you.

I find that constantly reading books and listening to podcasts from spiritual leaders that I resonate with, instead of watching normal TV that is full of drama, is like voluntarily brainwashing myself. The more my brain is full of these loving messages, the more it becomes my truth and the better I feel. This has had a huge impact on my mindset and in turn, my overall quality of life.

I come from a past where I grew up with an alcoholic father, a separated family from the age of 9, to experimenting with drugs in my teenage years to escape reality, ending up chronically depressed and medicated in my 20s where I was addicted to drama and being the victim. I absolutely hated myself and thought the world was better off without me, and used to joke that I had a thought process that needed traffic lights installed to try and control the chaos in my head because there were nonstop collisions all over the place.

But now, after many years of self healing work, I can honestly say that I love myself and who I am, and I absolutely LOVE my life. Everything so far that I have wanted to manifest, I have manifested and I continue to do so. I can finally achieve minutes at a time with no thoughts when I meditate. More than half of the time now, I am present enough that I can catch emotions, thoughts, words and actions that do not serve me before they do damage. I still have a hell of a long way to go on my journey but I can honestly say that what I am talking about today – I have actually experienced in my life and I absolutely stand by it 100%. It really works. Its real! But don’t just take my word for it – you need to experience it for yourself!

So the next question would be, if you were not limited by ANYTHING – what would your life look like? What do you really want? How would it feel to live a life like that? When you leave here today, put it the test, try practicing feeling it to be true deep down in your soul, and watch the magic unfold.

However, as mentioned, it’s important to release the attachment to a specific outcome and a specific time line. With anything in life, when we try to control something or someone, it creates an opposing force and very rarely ends up how we want it too.

Don’t stress about the details either, trust that the universe will figure all that out for you and just go with the flow and enjoy the ride! Keep an eye out for the universal signs and synchronicities, follow what fires up your joy and passionate drive, focus on how you can serve in this life time and give back to make this world a better place, and be grateful for every tiny miracle along the way.

One important rule to mention though, is that whatever you desire to manifest cannot be something that would cause someone else harm. That creates duality of energies, and manifesting is only powered by loving vibrations, not low vibrations.

Now that’s a lot of information to digest so far! If you’re still with me, you are probably thinking – “that all sounds very interesting, but where the hell do I start?!”

So how do we reprogram your 90% of automatic thinking? How DO we self-heal?

The first step of self-healing, unlearning damaging habitual thought processes, personal growth and awakening to the infinite possibilities that are available to you in this life time, is bringing awareness to your thoughts and the storeys you tell yourself, and the words you say to others. This automatic thinking has been programmed into us from a very young age to the point that we become so identified with the storeys, we are afraid to let them go because then - who are we and what is our reality? And most of the time we don’t even realise we are thinking at all. We are very rarely present in each moment, were usually thinking about the past and the future instead.
So you need to become present as often as possible – but how?

The best anchor points to the present moment are when you focus solely on one of your senses or your breath. This temporarily brings you away from losing yourself and identifying with your busy automatic monkey mind which is not the true you. You then have the opportunity to find that place of inner calm where you can connect to your intuition, and find peace beneath the chaos. That place within is who you really are – your essential nature – the happiness within you despite your external circumstances – the part of us that is all the same, that we were born with, the part of us that is pure unconditional love.

A lot of us in this world are disconnected from this beautiful inner space and this is why meditation is so highly recommended for our overall health. So many people say “I can’t meditate, my mind doesn’t stop” or there’s fear there to face what might be hiding within us and it’s too confronting.

But that’s the point – that’s WHY we need to meditate. Observing your thoughts without engaging is meditating. Going for a walk, being in nature, and connecting to your senses is meditating. Listening to a song and really feeling the music within your body and your soul is meditating. Repeating a mantra to yourself is meditating. There are so many guided meditations out there for those that need direction and something external to focus on. There is a type of meditation out there for everyone and the benefits are life changing.

Start with 5 or 10 minutes a day if that’s all you can commit too – and you will feel the difference with consistency, I promise. It’s important to have a morning and evening ritual if possible, to set the tone for the day, and to set yourself to marinate in as you sleep. I will go deeper into options for this shortly.

As mentioned before, mind set work takes a life time of practice. Its not something we can do once and then we’re healed. Like going to the gym – one workout isn’t enough to keep you fit and strong for your entire life. It’s a life time commitment. Like exercise and eating habits as well - whatever you choose to do has to be sustainable. With time and consistency with your daily mind set practice, you will begin to have more and more pockets of inner stillness, and it’s totally addictive, its honestly bliss. You will find golden moments where there are no thoughts and the feeling of absolute peace.

Step Two is making it a regular daily practice to observe your thoughts and feelings as you go about your day – not just in meditation. How many of your thoughts are limiting beliefs and judgements about yourself and others? What are your emotional triggers?

I touched on this briefly earlier - When you feel emotions arise such as discomfort, fear, anxiety, depression, anger, frustration etc – these are beautiful opportunities to heal. In these moments observe the physical reaction within your body with curiosity and non-judgement – heart racing, breath pattern changing, heaviness in the gut or tightness in the chest, jaw clenching, going hot or cold etc

When you do this instead of trying to ignore it or change it or drown in it mentally, you stop it from storing in your physical body and in your automatic thought programming. It loses its power of you.
Observe all thoughts that arise from your ego / pain body / shadow self (whatever you want to call it) without judgement and with kindness and compassion. Once you give it your full focus as an observer, the energy begins to dissolve. The more intense the emotion, the longer this takes, it may even take weeks or months of awareness depending on the severity of the situation, but this is the process of healing.

From here you get to make a choice – do you want to continue your suffering by blaming and judging yourself and others, and remain the victim, or do you want to heal? If you don’t make a change to your mindset, you will keep getting the same result. My favourite quote from Wayne Dyer - “Change the way you look at things and things you look at will change” and another goodie – “What you don’t change, you choose”. I also love Albert Einsteins quote “The definition of Insanity is repeating the same thing over and over and expecting a different result”.

I remember once going through a very painful break up that was dragging on for far too long and I had become a toxic person to be around. My mum set me straight saying “You get to choose how you feel, you are the only who can control your emotions, and right now your choice is making everyone else around you miserable.” I felt this like a slap in the face and was incredibly grumpy because I knew she was right, and the hard part, I knew I had to admit it and take ownership of it. This was a game changer.

YOU get to choose how much power someone has over you. YOU get to choose how you react to a situation. YOU get to choose how each moment is going to define you. YOU have to take responsibility for your emotions. Release all shame, blame and judgement (including of yourself).

Blame – this is a big one. When we are triggered, it’s an automatic response to want to blame the other person, or blame yourself. To really heal, this has to stop. You have to take ownership of your perceptions.

I know from personal experience that in the heat of the moment this can seem impossible. Even if you are completely in the right and someone is completely in the wrong and it seems completely unfair and ridiculous to have to be the one who has to forgive and let it go – BUT, if you don’t forgive, what do you think happens? You are giving them rent free space in your head where you carry them around with you wherever you go. The longer you carry them with you, the more that poison begins to spread.

Wayne Dyer liked to use the saying “Its not the snake bite that kills you, it’s the poison that works it’s way around your body that does”. Eventually long-term judgement, blame, hate and pain from the past affects your physical body. It becomes part of the foundation of your thought processes, part of that 90% automatic unconscious thinking, so then it goes on to poison your current and future perceptions, damaging your relationships, jobs, opportunity’s, happiness, everything!

That brings us to the next step which is letting go. To let go we need to practice forgiveness and acceptance. Acceptance of what is happening in this moment. How you are feeling, what you are thinking, where you are in life right now, whatever it may be. It is especially important to make peace and practice acceptance for everything you CANNOT control. It is a total energy waster and extreme suffering pain making machine when you try to fight what you cannot control.

Then forgiveness – forgive yourself for what you are feeling, what you have done, what you have thought or said. And forgiveness for anyone else’s part in your suffering and ego-based storey. It’s not condoning harmful behaviour (other people still need to take ownership of their projections too), it’s not brushing problems under the rug, it’s not ignoring what is not acceptable. The process is awareness – observation without judgement – feeling it - acceptance and taking ownership of your part – then forgiveness and letting go.

Its important to note that these “negative” emotions aren’t something that we should strive to never feel. Every emotion serves a purpose and is part of the process of being human, so don’t demonize them when they arise and try to squash them.

To be healed and whole, we need to let go of duality and constantly labelling everything as Good or Bad. We need to accept and observe what IS. We need to accept the process – ours and everybody else’s. Release ALL judgement, shame and blame of yourself and others. Trying to heal and become a better person doesn’t mean hiding our shadow selves / ego / pain body. It means taking ownership of it, being conscious of it, letting ourselves feel it so we don’t store it within, and learning from it. Perception is everything.

Unfortunately, this automated way of thinking and the confines of society norms are just part of our human existence, and to some degree we have to conform to operate in this world. But we can do it with awareness, compassion and love.

Knowing now that what we believe is our truth – this means no one is ever wrong are they? Because to them that is their belief structure, that is their reality. It’s not our job to judge them or try to change them, or to convince them that we are the ones that are right. That is the path that they are on, and can’t we have compassion for that? How can we blame someone for what they can’t see or what they don’t know? I repeat this to myself a lot - “Do you want to be right, or do you want to be kind?” Try and see the innocence in everyone and the age-old rule – treat others how you wish to be treated.

Think of animal – if wounded or threatened – it will attack, even if you are trying to help it, yet this is expected and we understand it. Why is it any different for humans? We forget that we all have our trauma - varying in degrees of severity sure, but painful nevertheless. Layers of pain changes a person, it changes the way we operate and think, and naturally it creates the attack response when we feel threatened. Quite often its not the situation that’s happening right now that we’ve reacted too that’s the problem, its our programming. So let’s try and remember this before we attack or react to an attack. Let’s be kind to ourselves and others.

I can go into all of what we touched on today deeper another time, but the purpose of this today, is to brush the surface of what is possible and to share some tools that have helped me, and hopefully, with each mind that is opened, the world becomes a better place, bit by bit, and I would love for you to continue with me on this journey.

I am not perfect; I am still learning and I will keep an open mind as I evolve and grow on this journey. Right now, I am driven to share what I feel deep down in my core is the key to ending constant unnecessary suffering. Sure, were not always going to be externally 100% happy – its ok to not be ok – life can be incredibly hard - but these mindset techniques can decrease the amount of time and intensity of our suffering if we are open to it.

None of what I have said today is new – it is regurgitated information from hundreds of years of enlightened souls passing down a message – but the mission of us light workers is to keep the message alive – and awaken as many souls as possible – so that we can find peace on this earth.

That energy force I was talking about before all connects to the collective consciousness of the universe. When you are healing yourself, when you are conscious of your actions and thoughts, when you are sharing loving vibrations – this energy output connects to everyone else’s. You literally have the power to help change the world. You have the power to combat the hate, fear and pain that this world is drowning in right now. YOU CAN make a difference. And it all starts inside. Everything that you need to heal, is already within you.

You may have heard of scientific studies where harmful words are spoken to one plant, and loving words are spoken to another, and the first plant dies, and the second flourishes? If you are open to all of this woo woo stuff, but are a sceptic and prefer proven facts – start looking for these sorts of studies. There is proof to what I am saying!

We need to remember that we are all one. Pain and suffering come from us forgetting that we are all connected. Like every cell in the body that work together for the betterment of the whole, regardless of whether it is a liver cell or a muscle cell or a heart cell, they all work together – yet if a cell goes rouge and does its own thing separate from the rest, it becomes cancer. War, famine, murder, hate – this is the cancer our separateness has created from the collective consciousness of the world. Ouch.

So, summing it up -
What do you honestly believe is possible? Are you ready to release limiting beliefs and believe that anything is possible? That you are completely supported and guided every step of the way? That you are never alone? That we are all connected? That choosing love is the answer?

As part of your daily ritual, the powerful book a Course in Miracles suggests to ask God or the Universe daily “How can I serve, what would you have me do, where would you have me go, what would you have me say, and to who?” You could also say something like “Use me as a vessel to bring love and light into this world” or a prayer like “please help me stay present and aware of my triggers so that I can choose love over fear, I am willing, I am open to see things differently”.

If the word God makes you squirm, then connect to whatever works for you – higher power, universal guidance, angels, spirit guides, internal compass, intuition – the word itself doesn’t matter. Saying these prayers or mantras are setting an intention and are doorways to make the shift to a loving vibration, and the universe will respond!
If you’re not sure where to start to find your life’s purpose, these mantras/prayers will help. When we focus on serving others, and operating from a place of love and not from a place of “What’s in it for me”, you will find your way.

Along with becoming aware of your thoughts, feelings and words – Also try to become aware of other energy’s in your life that you may be able to cleanse and shift such as – limiting time around people that aren’t operating on a loving vibration as we tend to end up matching their energy; clear out unnecessary clutter that you may be holding on too including things from the past that may be preventing you from making space for something new, avoiding movies and music that are filled with hate, fear and pain, becoming aware of environmental toxins etc

I know it can be hard to remember to focus on your thoughts when your days are so full and busy – but remember that you have the choice to check in. Set up reminders to check in, and it will become easier the more you do it. Check in, check in, check in. One right action at a time. Daily rituals and consistency help.

We will discuss Ritual options in my retreats and other little shifts we can try to help us on our wellness journeys. Don’t try and do it all at once as it will be too overwhelming. Pick one or two to achieve and once it becomes a habit, step by step you can add more when you feel ready.

If you are feeling resistance to a daily ritual though and it feels like a chore, and you can’t shift that perception – then you may not be ready. Don’t beat yourself up about it, it’s ok. Pick something else that helps you heal and brings peace that isn’t as challenging. When it’s time, you’ll know, you’ll be ready.

I will also provide a Book list from all the incredible spiritual guides and mentors that have helped me on my journey. They are so powerful and it has been life changing.

To finish - Remember – Life is not happening TO you, it is happening FOR YOU. We are not humans have an occasional spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings have a human experience. YOU are the observer of your thoughts, not your thoughts, your thoughts are programming.

If any of this resonates with you and you want to know more – please let me know after today what you would like to focus on for my next event. I will have a feedback form for you to fill out afterwards as well if you feel comfortable, it would be very helpful.
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Thank you for listening to my rambling, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.